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Laura
Hi! I'm Laura, a 23-year-old millennial girl discovering who I am by sharing my life experiences on my blog. You'll find me writing about me discovering my personal style, my growing wanderlust or giving any sort of style, uni or mental health advice.

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LIVING AT HOME AT UNIVERSITY



Today I wanted to talk about something that has really been on my mind lately. It all started because of a conversation I had with my brother a couple of weeks ago. One thing led to another and that conversation got me thinking about whether I missed out on certain experiences because I was still living at home instead of on my own or in a house with other students.

Back when I started university in September of 2014 I was so sure of studying in a different city than my hometown. I live in one of the bigger cities here in The Netherlands and was determined to study in a different city to also move into that city. Three weeks into my course I had panic attacks every day and I had no personality left. I felt horrible, which is why I decided to quit studying at that university. In February of 2015 I decided to start studying again, but stay in The Hague, which is where I live. At that time it made no sense for me to move out as I only lived 30 minutes away from university.



I was mentally not ready to leave home yet

Like I said, I only live 30 minutes away from my university, which is absolutely nothing compared to the 1,5 hours I needed to travel to the university I went to before that. But I also wasn’t ready to leave home yet. At the time I was still only 17, I had no reason to move out as I have a really good relationship with my parents. At the time my brother had already moved out too, which also meant I also had a lot of ‘living space’ for myself in my parents’ house. I decided not to leave home because I wasn’t ready to go yet. Not only because I didn't want to leave yet, but also because I just wasn't mentally ready to leave my home yet. I still felt super insecure and mentally not ready to live at home yet.



No extra stress

Throughout my other years at university I have thought about having to move out again, I have discussed this with my parents a couple of times too. Did they expect me to move out of the house? No, they were happy to still have one of their children around the house… They want the best for me and if living at home is what is best for me at that time, then I am allowed to stay.

Was I supposed to move out of the house because people from my university were starting to move out and be proper grown ups? Maybe… But I knew I wasn’t mentally ready to move out yet. I decided not to move out during my time at university because I knew it would only make my mental state worse. I knew moving out would only add stress to my life that I really did not need at the time. I saw fellow students and friends move out of their parents’ house. But then I also saw how incredibly stressful it was for some of them to live by themselves. They were having a hard time making rent, paying bills, while doing laundry, cooking and working while also having to keep up with university work.


My parents are my rock

My parents have always been my rock and are super supportive of every decision I make in my life. I am incredibly lucky with my parents. Even though I might have missed out on things in my ‘university life’, such as going partying every Thursday, Friday, Saturday and Sunday, I also know that I wouldn’t want to change anything these past four years. My parents were always here for me to lift me up, to encourage me, to complain to about anything and everything. But most important of all, I got to spend time with them and to really have a laugh. They let me live at home so I could focus and succeed in university and to fulfil my wishes.

The past four years of living at home while being at university have been challenging in it's own way. I have felt pressure from friends and fellow students t move out, but I would not have changed a thing. I am still young, only 21. I love spending time with my parents and have lots of time to spend doing fun things with my friends.


If you are deciding whether to move out or not, it basically depends on who you are as a person. If you don't feel comfortable living at home anymore, or want to have your own space, then it might be a good option for you to move out. I personally don't mind living with my parents and have plenty of 'alone space'. Instead of going clubbing, I would much rather spend time in the kitchen with my parents making them dinner or by binge watching Luther with them.

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  1. You're definitely right Laura, it really does depend on the person whether or not starting uni is 'good enough' of a reason to move out! Especially since a lot of people actually start uni at a really young age (17/18 is a young uni student to me!), it's clear that not everyone is ready at that point! What I keep saying is that if you have the chance to live at home whilst at uni then do it! Saves you from a lot of stress for sure :) ♥︎ xx

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    1. Exactly! It seems like so much stress to be living alone while having to do all the uni work and all the bills and stuff to pay. I'm glad you feel the same way and it all depends on each individual :) xx

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